A Meaningful Silence is always better than Meaningless words

Hi everyone,

It's been a while since my last blog post. I've started my new semester in another university year, so the work load is building up. There have been several times I started to write a new post on my blog..but was carried away due to various reasons. Plus, the assignments are starting to build up.

The topic : It's something I've observed during my university career. The people who talk big, aren't always the real heroes in the field. Moreover, I've always understood , the more time you waste in talking nonsense, the more, your precious time is lost. < Of course,I'm not referring to the crazy times we all spend with our best friends..! ;) > It's just the fact, that sometimes, we tend to get into trouble by extensive tactless speaking... Yeah, Ring a bell ? Haha..then this post is for you ;)

Talking too much , and being egoistic are two sides of the same leaf. The sad side of the story is, that those who are being egoistic doesn't understand that they are actually being laughed at and ridiculed by everyone. 

A solid step forward speaks louder than a hundred, empty , fair words.

what's important , is reaching your goals, your dreams in life. Speak when you have to..don't be shy to express yourself! And never let other people run all over you just because you keep silent! That's not the silence expressed here! What's important , is to always try and talk words of value. It also goes along with the lines; Always associate friends with similar thoughts or higher values. The mind sets of your friends device your life, no matter how much you think, your friends don't affect your way of thinking.

What you think, Is what you become!

So buckle up, prepare yourself. It's your dream that's waiting out there. Don't waste your time talking nonsense, and please don't ridicule yourself.

Try to take advice from people who are with humanity and good values. If you can't find friends superior than you or similar, < in their values> better be alone than associate the wrong doers and corrupt yourself.

Being egoistic will take you that much, maybe for few months , you'll be sought after and praised.. But soon after..you will see your downfall. Everyone's the same, no one higher , mightier in this whole humanity.

so,
Cultivate a big heart- but a small ego ;) 

Real / Fake - the thin wall between the two variaties

Have you ever had the constant bother of having few real, true friends in life. Are you victimized by people who call themselves your friends.. but actually only remembers you when they need help ?


Well , this one's for you then...

I've never had at least one true friend in life.. Not One. It's a mere fact of looking for characteristics in other people and searching for selfless beings in the world. Sounds pretty ridiculous huh ? ;)

We all need different things in life..we all desire our own dreams and wishes... On our journey, we meet people with similar needs, similar thinking patterns and wishes. But no two persons in the world are identical.

So, whoever you call your true friend to be, there comes an instance where they might need a total different aspect in life when you require the opposite. Everyone is going through their own struggles in life..And Frankly, I think it's quite wrong and unjust to expect anything in return as a friend from our buddies.

Yes, I have besties..people who actually care about me and my worries as well as the happy occasion. But, I have one rule in life. Never trust anyone too much. Or expect too much..Because that little bit too much will always be a pain in your life..if you don't watch out!
 Therefore, I have refrained from looking for best friends, stopped "searching" for them.

My theory is pretty simple. Be nice to everyone. Help people when you can. Be compassionate and be the best friend you always wanted you to have in your life. And become your own best friend. Come on, everyone is selfish..if not, you'll see people everywhere , prepared to die for their friends.. Just think about it..Would they ?

The only being who's not selfish enough to betray your friendship is your own self. And the rest, consider as "good Friends". Do your best for them, but guard yourself. Be the best and kindest you can be, but also be kind to yourself. It's as much as important.


There are people in everyone's life, who only come to get some help. People who have friends in high places, wants to be the besties of famous ,influential people.  Man is indeed a social animal, and every one is attracted to beauty, talents and similar traits, even when you keep money and other petty materialistic thinking aside.  They come and go just like moths attached to light..and when the light dims, they look for another source.

You should be compassionate and help them but always know where to draw the line when it comes to trusting them too much.

Treat yourself well. :)

What you fear..may indeed come true ...........

Have you ever realized that your worst fears have a tendency of becoming realities in life ? Just as much as what you wish for dearly in your life comes true when you work for it...your worst nightmares also finds their way through into your life..when you fail to do the to-do lists or worry too much instead of doing the required preparations to over come them. It's a pretty simple, straight-forward fact...although..at the moment ..I believe, it's got a bright side too..

Am I nuts to think so ?

Well, As I see and have experienced so much in life, our worst nightmares..the things we dread most in life... ( In my case nerdy thoughts such as failing exams , getting low grades,etc..  to....having a bullying friend who would destroy your day, annoying wannabe friends who steal your happiness away, ..or practical day-to-day aspects such as having a road accident or scratching the paint off on your dad's favorite car )  are actually premonitions and warnings for us..given by our sub-conscience. 

Maybe I am a bit Obsessive-compulsive , but the truth is...we all worry about each way things could totally screw up. Some have the nerve to over-think such matters and worry themselves to death...while others just let them pass as a little anxiety... 

But it is indeed a mechanism to alert us by instinct, what we should protect ourselves against..or prepare better for...

So next time you get a bad feeling about failing off your exam.. better get your gears up and study.. and if you feel like you will fail it cause you are lazy to attend the lectures., or lazy on revising or similar fact... don't just wait there and let it become a reality, cause that's exactly what your unconscious has been planning all along... It's a signal to understand what your subconscious has planed already.. and to device a plan of your own to win over your mind and succeed.

Somethings I stumbled upon on Paulo Coelho's Blog

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them;
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back;
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm, for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something;
I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned that no matter how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take it’s place.
I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re downhill are the ones to help you get back up.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that maturity had more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will get hurt in the process.
I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.